The Best-Guy-Friend's Guide to the Love-alaxy
Don't panic.
Here's a scenario: It happens that your bestfriend just got himself a girl. And she happens to be a mutual friend. Now, the situation just got a little messy and you find yourself forced to adapt to their relationship (you're a guy in this scenario). So let's examine a few hard truths, what you should do (important), what you should NEVER do (extremely important!) and some difficult-to-categorize-together statements.
No. 1 You have lost your bestfriend. Yea, really. He longer calls you because he's busy SMS-ing her. And ooopss, he just forgot to reply your SMS. Also, he no longer seem to logon into MSN Messenger (where the both of you chat about guy stuff).
No. 2 If the girl happens to be a friend who you often chat with, there goes another friend of yours.
No. 3 The reason behind statement No. 2 is that guys are an egoistic and possessive bunch. Truth is, contrary to popular beliefs, guys get jealous easily. By now, you should realise that you must stay away from his girl.
No. 4 Unless absolutely necessary, never talk to his girl. This is an extension from statement No. 3. An absolute no-no is flirting or joking with her because you won't like your eyes to be blue.
No. 5 Unlike before, between the three of you, you're now an outsider who may not be that welcome in every situation. Like the Malays love to say, "Don't disturb the leaves".
No. 6 Avoid making fun of their relationship. That puts a lot of strain into the newly formed and fragile relationship, especially when this is the first for one or both of them. Be considerate.
No. 7 Get yourself busy. Hey, you've just "lost" two of your best friends so don't act as if it doesn't affect you at all. This is a suitable time for you to expand your social network. Talk to others, make new connections.
No. 8 One precaution though -- getting yourself a girlfriend may not be a good decision right now. You may just be feeling desperate or indirectly pressured by your friends "spreading the love around".
No. 9 Don't offer any advice to them. If you're good in those lovey-dovey things, it's your bestfriend who would be reading this now.
No. 10 If you pray, pray for their happiness (and yours too!).
No. 11 Continue to learn and adapt to them... Like me. =P
Here's a scenario: It happens that your bestfriend just got himself a girl. And she happens to be a mutual friend. Now, the situation just got a little messy and you find yourself forced to adapt to their relationship (you're a guy in this scenario). So let's examine a few hard truths, what you should do (important), what you should NEVER do (extremely important!) and some difficult-to-categorize-together statements.
No. 1 You have lost your bestfriend. Yea, really. He longer calls you because he's busy SMS-ing her. And ooopss, he just forgot to reply your SMS. Also, he no longer seem to logon into MSN Messenger (where the both of you chat about guy stuff).
No. 2 If the girl happens to be a friend who you often chat with, there goes another friend of yours.
No. 3 The reason behind statement No. 2 is that guys are an egoistic and possessive bunch. Truth is, contrary to popular beliefs, guys get jealous easily. By now, you should realise that you must stay away from his girl.
No. 4 Unless absolutely necessary, never talk to his girl. This is an extension from statement No. 3. An absolute no-no is flirting or joking with her because you won't like your eyes to be blue.
No. 5 Unlike before, between the three of you, you're now an outsider who may not be that welcome in every situation. Like the Malays love to say, "Don't disturb the leaves".
No. 6 Avoid making fun of their relationship. That puts a lot of strain into the newly formed and fragile relationship, especially when this is the first for one or both of them. Be considerate.
No. 7 Get yourself busy. Hey, you've just "lost" two of your best friends so don't act as if it doesn't affect you at all. This is a suitable time for you to expand your social network. Talk to others, make new connections.
No. 8 One precaution though -- getting yourself a girlfriend may not be a good decision right now. You may just be feeling desperate or indirectly pressured by your friends "spreading the love around".
No. 9 Don't offer any advice to them. If you're good in those lovey-dovey things, it's your bestfriend who would be reading this now.
No. 10 If you pray, pray for their happiness (and yours too!).
No. 11 Continue to learn and adapt to them... Like me. =P
posted at 5:45 PM
6 Comments:
haha... love it! good guides! i should know it, since it happened to me once. but that eventually turn out well in the end, after both of them broke up that is. LOL. hm.. its happening to u now. i can tell. well, yeah, just continue to adapt all the statements there. and as my friend always said, "KUATKAN IMAN, KERASKAN TAHI!" haha... cheers mate!
hahaha... Just making fun of the situation I'm in. Everything's going good actually. ^_^
LOL..it's the guy side tat seems to be a lil' violent.. the one i've faced b4 is the girl tat's violent.. indeed, i hv lost the closest guy fren i knew n treasured... i like reading ur blog.. do u mind if i add u in my one of my links?
Haha... no he's not violent. Sorry if I made him sound like one. We're still the best of friends.
So you've been through something similar as well? I guess it happens to a lot of us isn't it?
Like I said, all we can do is to adapt to them, and hope they'll be happy. That's what a friend should do.
Hey, I'm extremely flattered that you like my blog. I can only express my gratitude with an emoticon: (",)
Feel free to link to me. I'm still having my trial now, so after my trial I'll find time to link back to you, ok? Thanks~!
yes esther...link him coz he is really really nice, plus, his posts are awesome!! haha.. erm.. nah.. jiron is not violent.. he's violentless.. haha.. erm.. hm... haha.. kakeng flattered! isyk! jealous lar! i wanna be flattered as well.. praise me! haha...
You sound really excited, Jasmine. LOL
Hey, btw, I forgot to wish you good luck for your PMR. So, Good Luck~!
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